Dating a divorced man without kids
See your friends, take yourself to a movie, catch up on some work, or just be by yourself and breathe.
It can be a beautiful thing if you let it, but if you don’t, he’ll feel the pressure of being the only thing in your life, even if it goes unsaid. You have something real and maybe even rare with him, and the only thing either one of you wants to do is plan a life together. No one is putting a gun to your head and forcing you to be in this relationship.
While it’s true that his kids wouldn’t like anyone with their father, it isn’t anyone—it’s you.
You are the woman who’s actually there, feeling resented, in the way, and often tossed aside for more important things.
Was it a one-time thing during a stressful period in his relationship, or was he a serial cheater?
If his ex-wife cheated on or hurt him, that may make it hard for him to open up to you and trust you fully. Ann says this is especially true if children are involved.
One of three things will happen: He’ll be totally honest about the reason () Or he’ll fib about it. If he cheated on his wife or had anger issues, you need to be very concerned about how that might impact your relationship with him.
Either his kids will come around or they won’t, and either my boyfriend and I will be able to move through all of it together or we won’t.You’re jealous of the time he spends with his kids—that he has these intimate relationships of which you are not a part. A friend once told me something that changed my perspective: When she was young, her father’s girlfriend reinforced the fear that she was going to lose her father.