Signs that your dating
When my ex was caught cheating on me and I told a few friends, the ex texted immediately — not to apologize, but to command that I stop spreading the news so as not to ruin their reputation. What people think of them, and the maintenance of the belief that they're superior, is pretty all-engrossing, and they will devote a lot of time and energy to it. At best, they find your emotions confusing, and want to make you feel better because that makes them the "perfect" partner; at worst, they view them as outright confronting and annoying.Narcissists, according to numerous psychological studies, feel emotions only very shallowly, and view sentimentality as "weakness."Narcissists are always the heroes and heroines in their own life stories.Maybe you’re texting one person, but planning a coffee date with another.It’s not wrong; since you’re not tied down, you’re simply screening a list of potential candidates.We still don't know where narcissism comes from: some psychologists link it to borderline personality disorder, others believe it conceals a serious lack of self-esteem (something self-aware narcissists themselves dispute), and still others have linked it with neglect as children.The newest study thinks kids who are over-praised but under-loved as kids are most likely to become narcissists — but we're still essentially groping in the dark.
Let’s consider the signs, to see where you might be. This isn’t always the case, but there’s a chance that if you’re casually dating, you have a friend who’s also single, and you’re having sex on occasion.
Whether it's a gleaming rags-to-riches tale of their continual triumph over lesser challengers, or a Byronic struggle with their own brilliance and difficulties, you're always a side player.
It's a phenomenon called narcissistic supply, which makes narcissists seek excitement and drama to give them access to admiration, adoration, and notoriety. Any time you say "no" or set up a boundary on their behavior, it's just a red rag to a bull: they hate being told what to do. This can lead to some hilariously House Of Cards problems where they're trying to manipulate everybody behind the scenes (narcissists are also terrible gossips).
Faithfulness for a narcissist is a tricky thing: why would they give up on the affirmation of another person's approval just because of your feelings? A narcissist often has their "pack." Regina had her Mean Girls, and most narcissists will have people who are acolytes or minions, who fully believe the myth of the narcissist's superiority and go along with whatever they say.
Friends are there to serve a purpose, whether it's getting the narcissist ahead, or providing positive feedback.
Dating a narcissist is basically a series of endless conversations where you express an opinion and they immediately jump on it.